It’s easy to feel stuck doing a job you hate or living somewhere that’s just not right for you. Maybe you just hate that your closet still looks the same as it did in the ’90s. Whatever your particular rut; it’s never too late to reinvent and redefine yourself. I know the sound of this is terrifying to most, but when you do a little at a time, it’s easier than you might think. At 18 or 80, there is always more to be done.Don’t sit around waiting for things to happen, make a change, get excited, declutter your life, do things that challenge your mind, be fierce and follow those dreams.
It Takes Time
You don’t have to change yourself overnight. It could take weeks, months, or even years. Most of us got busy with the dawn of the New Year drafting resolutions-but those resolution will not come to fulfilment if not worked for! And the sooner you start, the sooner you’ll look in the mirror and see a new you.
1. NEW PEOPLE.
The first and easiest thing to do is surround yourself with new people. This introduces you to new perspectives, experiences and opportunities. Something as simple as volunteering in an area you’re passionate about is a great start.
2. BE HONEST ABOUT WHAT YOU WANT.
“Knowing yourself is the beginning of all wisdom.” ― Aristotle. Reinventing yourself is going to ruffle some feathers. Your parents might like you the way you are, but you might have always hated following in their footsteps and being an employee. Until you’re ready to be honest about what you want and start living that way, you’re going to be stuck in a life you hate.
3. BUILD A SUPPORT GROUP.
Reinvention is full of ups and downs. You’ll need a support group to help push you when you want to give up. They’ll also help give you pointers on how and what to change. If possible, build a support group of others who want to reinvent themselves, too, and you can do it together. In this ICT world it’s so easy to build a support system. Forming a group on Facebook or WhatsApp is just a tap or a click away.
4. MENTORS OR COLLABORATORS.
Knowing what you wish to change and knowing how to change it are two totally different things. This is where mentors and collaborators come in. Whether it’s reading the blog or tweets of someone who inspires you or getting an internship, mentors are everywhere. Maybe you want to start your own business. Having a collaborator who knows the ins and outs of business can help you change.
5. LIST YOUR GOALS AND READ THEM EVERY DAY.
I know it seems like something a teenage girl might do, but it’s actually helpful and motivating. List all the things you want to change or accomplish. Think short and long term. Put the list somewhere you’ll see daily and read it. It’ll keep you on track.
6. TACKLE YOUR GOALS HEAD ON
Having goals is great, but only if you actually do something with them. Start by choosing one goal. Short term goals are best to start with. Maybe it’s changing your hair or redecorating your house. Set aside time daily for that single goal until it’s accomplished and move on to the next.
7. TAKE SOME CLASSES OR READ SOME BOOKS.
“Equip yourself for your own needs.”-If you’re not sure how you want to reinvent yourself, get some inspiration by taking classes in areas you’re interested in or reading some books. Watch inspirational TEDtalks, you’ll find new ideas and even get valuable guidance on how to make changes in your life.
8. TRAVEL IS THERAPY
Sometimes seeing other cultures or just stepping out of the city you’ve always lived in is enough to get your reinvention started. Travel to different areas around the world or even just a few states away. Just getting away for a while helps you feel like a new, more confident person. We’re used to thinking of travel as the ‘fun’ bit of life, but enjoyment isn’t a reason why it shouldn’t also do more for you. At its deepest level, travel can assist us with our psychological education. When approached the right way travel reveals its full potential to function as a form of therapy in our lives– helping us to grow into better versions of our normal selves.
12. SEE THE LESSONS IN EVERY FAILURE
“Success is not final, failure is not fatal: it is the courage to continue that counts.” -Winston Churchill.You’ll never be successful at anything without a few obstacles or failures along the way. You’ll have days where everything goes wrong and you think it’s not worth it. Learn from each fall. Everyone has another chance to get better at whatever you’re trying to change. Reinvention takes time and effort. Expect failure, but don’t let it stop you.Your strength is in your mind. Never stand in your own way!
By Kerina Chipo (Keke) Chizemo