Let’s talk about a very important subject- you. Are you the type of person who thinks that putting other people’s needs ahead of your own is “the right thing to do”? Wrong. Do you often sacrifice your own happiness just to “keep the peace” or be the bigger person? Shame. Do you dumb yourself down so that the people around you can feel better about themselves? You dummy. Don’t you know? The person who matters the most at the end of the day is the person in the mirror- you. Loving yourself hard will often require you to teach the people around you how to treat you better, to teach yourself how to celebrate yourself and how to love yourself more and more each day. By:NtombikamamaMoyo

Set boundaries

There are people in your life who just don’t know when to stop- stop meddling in your business, stop pushing you to the edge, stop judging you for every mistake you make and stop putting you down. Let me just say this, you don’t need that in your life. You need to set boundaries around you that should not be crossed. Boundaries are meant to protect you from ideals that threaten your happiness and peace of mind. That’s why you need to stand in your power and voice out the things that drive you crazy, make you happy or just downright make you see red. Don’t be afraid to let the people in your life know what’s important to you. That way, you get to choose what you allow in your personal space. If they don’t want to respect those boundaries, then it’s probably check out time anyway. Weed out the negativity in your life.

Resist the PMD syndrome

Have you ever had a great idea that you knew would be a hit if it were to be implemented but then somehow, you talked yourself out of pursuing it because of doubt? Who am I to be this awesome? I don’t deserve this. Let me just quit while I’m ahead. It’s the PMD syndrome (Pull Myself Down). As long as you have it, you’ll never think that you deserve good things happening to you. Don’t be that person. You have the potential to do and be anything you set your mind to. Other people can believe in you but if you don’t believe that you have what it takes and continuously criticise and doubt yourself, you’re digging yourself into a life of failure that will eventually be punctuated by regrets. The only person who can successfully pull you down is yourself so don’t do it. With the world trying hard to bury you, you don’t need to be one of the people holding the shovels. Pull yourself up and win.

Love yourself hard

Self love is believing in your worth as a person and a person who knows what they are worth is not afraid of showing it. When you love yourself, you allow yourself to love others and to be loved back in return. You know that you deserve good things in life. When you love yourself, it means that you forgive yourself for your past and future mistakes and give yourself as many new beginnings as you need. When you love yourself, you never run out of second chances. When you love yourself, you don’t wait for the next person to validate your beauty, thoughts or decisions. When you love yourself, you are free to be yourself and be who you’re destined to be. So, love yourself hard.

YOU are Number One!

Life is too short to waste it looking over your shoulder and wondering what people think or say about you. Don’t sacrifice yourself for people who won’t sacrifice themselves for you. Remember, at the end of the day, it’s the person in the mirror who will never turn their back on you. When you demonstrate self-love, you’ll attract the right kind of people in your life. Don’t be afraid to put yourself first in everything you do. It’s not being selfish, it’s called self-love and looking out for number one.


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