Men are socialized to suppress so many human parts of themselves – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichie

Our fave, best-selling Nigerian author, Chimamanda Adichie was one of the keynote speakers amongst a variety of other notable speakers at the 2018 Inbound Conference, one of the biggest events in marketing, which took place in Boston recently. We love that she consistently drops knowledge whenever she speaks, and we aren’t ashamed of how we #fangirl at her unabashedly feminist outlook.

The Inbound Conference was no exception.

Chimamanda has previously spoken about the identity politics of being an African in the West (with Trevor Noah) fave) and she shared her philosophy at Inbound:

Her speech touched on various issues including how patriarchy also hurts men:

Both men and women suffer from the illnesses that lead to suicide but it is men that have a much higher rate of dying by suicide. Why? Because men are socialized to suppress so many human parts of themselves, men are socialized not to ask for help, men are socialized to be afraid of fear, men are socialized not to show vulnerability. From the moment we tell a little boy that ‘boys don’t cry’ or we tell a hurting teenager to ‘man up’ we are creating an adult man who will be cheated of the full range of his emotions. So, while men benefit from patriarchy, they also suffer from it.

the importance of stories:

I  believe that stories can change minds. I believe that stories can take away dignity and stories can restore dignity.

and inspired us to believe that we could change anything:

Just because something has been done a certain way doesn’t mean it’s the only way it can be done.

Watch the full keynote:


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