Be yourself. Above all, let who you are, what you are, what you believe shine through every sentence you write, every piece you finish.” ~ John Jakes

Being YOU means to celebrate and cherish your uniqueness – learning to express yourself and be happy with who you are.One author alluded that  ‘Your success will have everything to do with how you perceive yourself, because how you perceive yourself is how others will perceive you, too.’ This quote has a lot of relevance in everyday life especially that of women. With the just ended International Women’s day, successful women and mentors were celebrated and some even spoke out about their life journeys. One essential aspect to note is that most(if not all) successful women have a positive self-concept despite the challenges they have come across. Self- Concept is simply an individual’s belief about herself. Most successful women are resilient and passionate in the different roles they play but most of all they value themselves, they believe in ‘Being themselves’. The different societies we come from can easily change oneself, they can crash a dream and destiny to nothing but rubble. It takes a strong woman to stand for what they want and focus on it. In a woman’s world, there are a lot of up and downs emanating from the family setup,the society we live in as well as the workplace. One aspect that separates conquerors from just the general woman   is the ability of ‘Being yourself”. Remember being yourself is not a choice, it is not a mere application that one can simply withdraw,it is an every- day life, it is who you are, it is your destiny.

Most women cannot maintain a positive self- concept about themselves, they think negatively about their identity, body image and have a low self-esteem, but what is vital to always remember is everyone was made in the image of God and thus has uniqueness designed to fit with the purpose that the individual was set up to achieve.

Key ways to “Be yourself”;

  • Discover who you are

Take time for yourself, find your purpose, work on your negative side learn what builds you and what destructs you. Remember to define yourself in your own terms. Find your purpose.

  • Don’t compare yourself to others

Everyone is unique in their own way, people reach their potentials at different times and seasons.Comparing your life to another person’s will only result in self-harm and going the wrong path. Be yourself and allow your life to unfold.

  • Stop caring about how people perceive you.

Some of them will like you and some of them won’t. Either attitude is as likely to be right or wrong. Believe in yourself ALWAYS!

4)   Stop being a people-pleaser.

Always wanting everyone’s love, respect and approval is a totally pointless exercise that can result in your personal growth stunted. Who cares what other people say?Each human being is distinctive in their own ways, based on their self- concept, socialization and visions. It will be a waste of time for a Diva to be always in confusion on decisions to make as they have a list of people to please but themselves.

  1. Believe in yourself

Do not expect anyone to believe in you before you do that 100% for yourself. Write your goals down, meditate upon them and work towards them. Most women will seek approval to be what they want or achieve their dreams and goals that is SO  SO WRONG! Believe in yourself and your dreams will surely become a reality.



Written By Tatenda Rungisa

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